When feeling better do not take the time to google old college roommates, especially ones you know have gone out and succeeded in ways you wish you'd had a chance at and who probably forgot all about you about oh, 14 years ago since you graduated 15 years ago. Now I'm sad. Glad for all of them, just had my belief that not attending reunions is best for me re-affirmed. It takes me back nearly 20 years to the day I found out that not only were my other 2 roommates closer friends than I was with them they did not want to room with me the next year. Some of it was logistics, there weren't many triples available, but mostly who wants to room with an extremely anxious, depressed, fighting treatment as hard as possible, overly stressed by her classes and work person when you could have fun? It's hard to argue with that and they were nice enough but it was one of the first times I had to really and truly face "I'm different". Not just the psych stuff, I wouldn't even have thought of that as a first reason (although I was not fun to be with while coping with my parents' divorce) but because our backgrounds were SO different. Both of them were from affluent families in affluent towns. They had planetariums at their high schools; we didn't have adequate microscopes. They had normal regional accents; I had an Appalachian accent that they found funny. And it can be, I just wanted to blend in a bit. That was the year I started smushing my accent and using it only when I wanted to or I am around someone else using it in which case it pops out. They were from major cities; I was from a town so small that we mailed something to my mother's first name, description of the road I lived on (but not it's name) and it got there on time as if it were addressed properly.
They never rejected me for my illness although by the time it was bad we didn't see each other much. They pulled away because I wasn't from their world and never could be. That was true with a lot of people in college but some people are able to open their world more than others. Just before we graduated I ran into one of them and they'd heard I was going to grad school and they told me of their own plans. Both were well on their way to success in their chosen fields and through the alumni magazine I have seen them succeed.Monday, September 30, 2013
Note to self
So long I can't remember
Two weeks of therapy now that I have felt so much better that I have looked it to Dr. Mind. It's been a long time for that but even longer since I had a therapy session where I did not cry at all. I can't even guess when that last happened. It was a good thing. It's weird to be relaxed in there; I'm so used to struggling through every hour and usually crying through most of it.
At the end of a not-high-pressure session he pointed out that when I'm feeling good he doesn't have to push so hard as he had been doing. After the monster pushing day that led to sobbing in the car for an hour and blowing my nose repeatedly into a rag I had in the car for cleaning it that was full of Armor-All I told him maybe not so hard and that I've decided Armor-All ingestion was the solution to everything. I've had patients swear up and down that spraying WD-40 on arthritic knees helps them; perhaps my theory isn't much different.Saturday, September 28, 2013
Sick
Last weekend one of my nieces had a slight fever when they were here. It went away quickly with tylenol and that was it. A few days later her mom was feverish and nauseous and didn't feel well. That was the day after we went to the zoo. Last night I was fine when I went upstairs and was taking off nail polish when I realized I was going to throw up. And I was right.
Because dehydration is really bad for me I have a script for Zofran to use when I start vomiting. I think I'm supposed to wait until I've vomited 2-3 times but I am not sure and I also wasn't sure that it wasn't the start of a migraine, in which case I'm supposed to take it immediately. But it won't stop me from vomiting if my body really needs to so it's ok. I took that, realized I also had a low fever and eventually got to sleep.Therefore one mild stomach bug is going to mean that my psych issues are out of control for the next 3-4 days, depending on how long meds need to be happy together again.
Thursday, September 26, 2013
Good
Things are going well. I paid a massive amount of credit card debt (massive in relation to my income) down today and will pay it off next month with a small payment. That was a good start and even better it was a start in the morning. Topamax is helping me wake up more easily. It doesn't get me to sleep earlier but I do get up earlier. That's nice.
We went to the zoo today: my sister, both nieces, my mom and I. The weather was perfect for me and for the animals; we were able to see some up close that usually aren't seen at all. Anne had a blast and Gwendolyn enjoyed lots of snuggle time. She likes to be in very specific positions, mostly high on your shoulder with her legs scrunched up under her and a blanket swaddling her. However, when the sun got in her eyes she let me know I was to move her down.Monday, September 23, 2013
well
I've been on a very low dose of Topamax for migraine prevention for a week now. I've been trying to get on it for nearly 2 months and have been beaten back by sedation. Not at night when I NEED that but all day, every day. This last week though it worked. I had a 4 day long migraine but I did not sleep all day. And as the week ended something amazing happened. My mood improved and my anxiety decreased. Topamax is a relatively weak mood stabilizer and I'm barely taking any of it so this is totally unexpected but it is doing something. Dr. Mind said I smiled more and was in a better mood than I have been in months. And when he says months I think he means nearly a year. So this is great, right?
Nope. It may not be anyway. I already fight with constipation. I take a daily prescription med for it and am armed with a lot of other meds to use as needed. Since this was becoming an issue I checked in with Dr. Body. The computer system is down for his office and so I got a phone call back from the nurse who relayed his comments. She had called me a few months back about something and managed to confuse some things enough that I wound up in tears and this time she was not very polite which is great; one bridge burned I think although I did not complain about her; was very careful NOT to complain about her in fact. But anyway, the message said I needed to lower (ie come off) the topamax if I needed the doses of meds I was asking about. I am a little confused in that I've taken those doses in the past and I'm not sure that I made it clear that I wasn't taking that much now and was just asking if I could go up since I knew I'd been much higher before. And now I can't get back to him.I am not willing to go off this unless forced to. I emailed Dr. Brain to see if she had feedback and explained that the mood effects have been significant enough to make stopping not feel good. So we'll see; she may not want to interfere with Dr. Body's work. I'm asking her though if I can use miralax instead of what I was taking. I hope i asked that. I meant to. I have to check because I'm not sure I did what I meant to. I am going to look at the drugstore to see if there is a fiber supplement I can take. I know some of them are not allowed with diabetes insipidus because I don't have water in my body to spare. (This is why I don't want to use Miralax; it just doesn't work well when you are chronically dehyrdrated). Perhaps there is something though. So here's praying that this works because so little is out there that is going to help my mood right now and if something does I really want to hang on to it.
Sunday, September 22, 2013
Oh how I wish I could tell the whole story
But I can't.
However, I will say that my niece has gained an entire pound since her surgery and since she wasn't able to eat for a while after surgery that's pretty amazing. She's getting longer too and is starting to wear clothes that are 0-3 months instead of just newborn. Between this and the change in how healthy she looks now (before her color was bad and she just looked unwell) I feel so much better. Her pain level is decreasing now pretty significantly and her incision is closed over which is very, very good for reasons I can't explain.
I hadn't seen her with her big sister really at all. Everything that has happened has made Anne grow up so much. She is SO sweet with "her baby", even rocking the carseat when Gwendolyn fussed before anyone had a chance to get her out. She frequently asks to give her sister a kiss and tries to get lined up just right to be where the baby can see her to get smiles. Anne is so much more comfortable here. She has a routine now for bedtime (I must do bath, then 2 episodes of some tv show on Amazon Prime, the grandma reads while she's all wrapped up in a blanket I made for her and she's asleep. She's not a baby anymore and the last 4 weeks have taken the last babyishness away I think. Bittersweet.
They're up for my mom's birthday celebration tomorrow. My brother will get to meet his new niece for the first time.
Otherwise not much to say. I am very proud that on my 3rd or 4th attempt I finally am tolerating 25 mg of Topamax for migraines. (If it helps with mood stability that's a nice bonus but I probably won't hit that dose). Every other time I've been knocked out and this time I've not. I've been knocked out by a 4 day long migraine by it wasn't the med. So Monday we'll ease it up a tiny bit more. Oh, oh, my house....that's big. I have a completely framed house, inside and out. It has a room and the deck is framed. It has a shingled roof and I think siding is next. The floor plan finally can't be changed after probably 8 variations. What we came up with though is great. We actually went in with the designer, her father/construction owner-boss and a construction worker and played around using beams to mark things off until we maximized the space the best we possibly could. Ultimately we wound up with some good closet space and a little hallway/diversion thing that makes my bedroom and bathroom slightly offset and not quite as open to the whole house. Yesterday I went appliance pricing (blagh) and found exactly the tile I wanted for the bathroom floor on clearance. I was able to get the whole bathroom floor for $36.
Anyway, I'm possibly getting sleepy (please God) and so I'll stop typing.
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Friday, September 20, 2013
Sad for the shooter
I'm having a hard time getting the shooter from the Navy Yard off my mind the last few days. Naturally my heart breaks for the victims and their families. But it is also breaking for the shooter, who was clearly mentally ill and clearly was seeking help in the ineffective way that happens when your mind is out of control. It just shows how much we need to learn as a society in order to see when people need help.
The VA is saying over and over he only complained of insomnia. Did anyone ever ask him what kept him from sleeping? I bet not.
He called the police in desperation and fear of his hallucinations days before the shooting. Did they offer to get him to an emergency room in a way that didn't make him more paranoid? I doubt it. I doubt it because I know what it is like to hallucinate and to not trust any thought because you don't know if it is yours or the thing taking over your mind. The time that I hallucinated the most was because I was very lithium toxic. I was aware that the thoughts weren't mine and while I heard voices saying many things they weren't telling me to do anything. That would have terrified me. I had visual hallucinations then (and some other times) and those are harder for me to sort out from reality. I am scared of birds and visual hallucinations often involve birds flying at me while I duck and cower and cover my head.
Paranoia is another thing. Police and others who may come in contact with someone having a psychotic episode really need to know how to talk to someone who is paranoid. "You're hearing things, let's go to the emergency room" is likely to only make the person who needs treatment feel that they are being patronized and probably locked up and the worst thing for paranoia is to feel you can't get away from it. It needs to be very subtle, working within the context of what the person is feeling/experiencing instead of letting the person know that this is judged as abnormal.
There are a myriad of other issues here: gun control, screening military candidates as thoroughly as possible, security in public places. As Jon Stewart or Steven Colbert pointed out tonight the fact that the man had a navy security card did not really mean much. Without that he would have shot somewhere else. He wasn't shooting because he was upset with the Navy. He was shooting because he was very mentally ill and nobody stopped it.
There are parallels to James Holmes, the man who shot up the Colorado theater a year ago. He had been getting treatment but he also had told his friend to stay away because he was dangerous. He had a number of completely irrational actions and again the right questions weren't asked. It's not someone's fault but it is a failure of the general system, in both cases.
The sad reality is that when someone in their late teens-early twenties begins showing signs of psychosis chances are pretty good they need some serious help. I was 24 when I started really having strong signs of bipolar all day every day. I wasn't psychotic and it wasn't nearly as bad as it would get, but I just remember feeling so strange all the time. I remember trying to describe the agitation I felt and the irritability and that I wasn't Jen anymore. It was not possible to find the right words. It could have been so much worse. So, so much worse.
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Tuesday, September 17, 2013
Losing therapists
I probably will be discussing this periodically for the next several months so I am going to explain a little bit. I don't think anyone loves changing therapists. I hate it and dread it.
I don't do well with most therapists. I have had a lot of them. Very few of them were very helpful. The first one "let" me "choose" between staying in an abusive home or going to foster care when that's not even what would have happened. That made me reluctant to ever try again. The next was Dr. Mind the first. He was great. We got along well and seemed to have similar approaches to life. I wasn't diagnosed with bipolar yet and didn't even take antidepressants until the last several months I saw him because I fought against them, but he helped me get over my fear of repeating that horrible situation from the past. He also waited out my fears of confiding in anyone and by waiting I mean he would sit and wait for me to talk for half a session. I saw him through 3/4 of my freshman year and then after a year off saw him through the rest of college. He did some truly kind things for me that helped me trust again. One thing I remember was that my final Christmas break from college was one of the worst 3 weeks of my life. I was ragingly manic from a pre-break antidepressant change that we didn't realize was making me manic and I slept 4 hours in 2 weeks. I was a mess. Not only did he email me and talked to me on the phone, including telling me exactly why overdosing on the amount of Zoloft I had at that time was going to do nothing more than put me on a psych unit and cause me to vomit (nobody has ever been so direct about suicidal thoughts and why they'd fail), he also took time to send me little funny things. Months later I picked up a magazine and found that he'd taken the time to copy these things from there. When I returned to school we met 4 days per week, for an hour and a half at a time. It was too keep me out of the hospital and it was intense, hard work for both of us (especially since it turned out he was giving me his lunchtime). It worked and 4 months later I was improving.Sunday, September 15, 2013
catching up
My niece is HOME. She made it out on absolutely the first possible day and after major surgery and several days of NPO (no oral feeds) she managed to bounce right back into nursing and meet her homegoing requirements. She looks better than she has in her whole 4 weeks of life. She finally has color. She's beautiful. I expect we'll get to see some smiles soon. I don't know how we will ever take even one of those for granted.
Emotionally this hit me hard once she was finally safe. Yesterday I spent nearly all day in bed and slept for huge chunks of time. Today I at least got dressed and sat on the couch. But I am still emotional and exhausted. I hope to get past this soon because I keep getting overwhelmed by feelings and not communicating well. I was so upset trying to tell my mother that she couldn't reasonably expect to leave me to watch a puppy who wakes up 2 hours after I go to sleep. I hate that but it is true. So he's at the kennel until my mom gets home from helping them settle in. It sounds like that's probably tomorrow; things were going well.Recovery
My niece is finally doing well. They let the sedation wear off today and she's down to just tylenol for pain. Her catheter is out and she's nursing. She is much more alert than she was when I saw her yesterday which was really hard. She was very pale and lethargic and barely moving around because of the sedation they gave for that purpose.
The first time I held her I thought something seemed off. I think she has never looked well and she certainly hasn't grown much. I believe that is about to turn around and she will start to thrive now. I think that the problem she had (which was congenital and can cause issues in utero) was just making her not well. Now she has to heal but she finally has a body where everything is much closer to normal.Friday, September 13, 2013
Surgery
My niece had surgery today at the tender age of 3 weeks and change. She did really well with a very long wait and no food. Surgery went well and unless something unexpected shows up in her pathology she will be fine after she heals. The condition she had requires frequent monitoring until she is a preschooler and then periodically through the rest of her life. It should be fine but it can come back or a related problem can occur.
The hard part now is that some of the things required for her to heal are rough. I can't be more specific without saying too much but she is going to have a hard few days.Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Invisible Me
Jean Grey asked:
Do you have any dreams? When I was on disability, I just had this loss of identity. I think if I had to do it again, I would try to be a writer- even if I didn't get published much, didn't make much, I would be a writer. Or I'd do more beekeeping with my dad- get more bees, and be a beekeeper. Or I'd hike the Appalachian trail. (section hike it) As for sleep, the best thing for my sleep was work. I never slept regular hours before I worked. Even in school, I didn't. Of course my ambian also helps.Good questions. Right now dreams are hard to find. I start to think that maybe I could do this or that eventually but mostly they are things I really couldn't do unless my symptoms are better controlled. Dr. Mind and I were just talking about whether I will decide to renew my NBCOT (national OT license) next year or not. At one point everyone agreed letting it go was better but now Dr. Brain doesn't want me to do that unless I am absolutely sure I don't want to try PRN or something later. I can't see going back to OT even PRN simply because I am not good enough at not throwing myself in too hard and saying I'll do 2 evals but working 4 hours, half for free. I may keep it only because I'd like to try to teach online sometime. I think that is something I could do, especially medical terminology or something like that. For now I can't do that. It's hard to know what will happen; if a new med comes out next year as is possible that is an entirely new class of antipsychotic and it helps me (problem is that it has questionable trial results and may not get approved since it hasn't shown great results versus placebo in early tests) then I may find that I know more what I think I can do. Until something lets me sleep, wake up, controls my anxiety and obsessive thinking, levels out the constant cycling and removes the deep depression overlying the rapid cycling I think I'm stuck. Other things I'd like to volunteer to do but don't feel consistent enough. I'd like to offer time to NAMI members with disability paperwork. I am not an expert but I am fairly sure my experience with OT evaluations helped a great deal in my functional assessment forms. I also read a lot and know some tricks, and since I'm the rare mental health patient approved without a full review of records or even initial forms (they didn't even request records from my primary doctor) I think I could help someone. But I need to be able to trust that I can do things without backing out. Perhaps when I'm moved in that will be easier. As far as sleep goes I haven't slept well ever, since birth, except for the few years I had when I was pretty stable with Seroquel and Emsam. Now I'm on even more Seroquel, a bunch more sedatives and nothing helps. I often worked with 2-3 hours of sleep. During that good time I slept from 11 pm to 4 AM and it worked wonderfully. I wish I could get back to that. Part of the problem is that I tend to become tolerant to sleeping pills really quickly and once I'm tolerant it is forever. Ambien was great for me for a while but in the last 5 years I've taken 20 mg, I've combined CR and regular, I've tried it at different times and nothing helps. I take it in the hospital because I never relax there enough to sleep but it usually works 2-3 days. Lunesta was the same. It only worked a couple weeks to begin with and it was awful because there's a taste to it that you have to have the right genes to taste and I have it. It tastes awful from 30 minutes after taking it for the next 12 hours or so, no matter what you do. I don't think sonata worked at all, ever, but I probably should try it again sometime when I am insured. Gabapentin is probably the best I've got now and it is inconsistent and not extremely effective. If I'm upset or worried I am much stronger than my med cocktail. Tonight is the night before my niece's surgery and I'll be lucky to get much sleep at all. But I also am not alone in that one. Copyright 2006 www.masterofirony.blogspot.com
Monday, September 09, 2013
The benefits of 8 years of one therapist
Sometimes I question whether staying with Dr. Mind is the best thing. Usually I know without a doubt that it is because I have learned to trust him and have responded very well to his treatments over all these years. Sometimes it is really frustrating when he can read me too well. I was really angry last week and he knew it although I was not saying it.
I spent a lot of time writing out a bunch of questions about several things that have bothered me in the last few months with him, particularly that he has been increasingly confrontational. My computer refuses to print with my printer for a reason I have yet to understand (Windows 8? I don't know. I installed the driver and it says it is recognized but it won't print). So I had to talk. Had I not spilled lithium all over his office it would have been easier but I did and it took a while to clean up because it scattered. I had 2 weeks of meds out so that if I can't make it next week because of my niece's surgery I'd be ready. I explained that I had spent days waiting to talk about my niece's problem only to learn that nobody had thought to tell me they were closed for Labor Day so I had to wait days more and that I knew he hadn't know how huge the issue felt by the end of all that waiting. I questioned the way some things were said and if the intention was the way I had interpreted it. I asked why a lot.
I left feeling a lot better. He really did not back down from much of what he said although he did agree the timing may have been off. He explained a lot and that helped. It also helped to disagree in spots and know that I had said what I needed to even if he didn't really accept my answers.
He did tell me that he worries about me because I have less fight than I used to. Some of that was undoubtedly because I didn't get angry last week, or didn't admit it. But it's also because something has changed. I haven't figured out how to change it although I know it is true. I think I just don't know what I'm fighting for sometimes. For years I fought as hard as I could to work. And now that is gone and I'm not in a place that work of any kind is reasonable because my sleep is so erratic and I can't be responsible about being somewhere. I hope that I get back to the place that worked best, when I slept from 11 pm to 4 AM consistently. But for now I'm very sedated but still fight to sleep and I need to sleep into the day. Even volunteering time doesn't work well when my sleep is this messed up. There are things I care about a great deal that are worth fighting for but they don't always need much fighting. There is a bug in my room the size of my smaller cat and THAT may be worth fighting....I think there is still a level that eats a lot of energy but that I don't talk about much where I am still fighting to want to live. I no longer want to hurt myself all the time but I feel that way because I work at it and it may not be apparent since I don't talk about it. I am anxious to talk to him more about this because he is right and yet I still think that I validly feel somewhat stuck in my life right now. I don't want to have a discussion where everything is about the things I have to fight for. I always hear about my nieces in that conversation, for example. And yes, they are worth fighting for but it's not the thing I need to give purpose to my life. Somewhat ironically I wrote my master's thesis on meaningfulness in life and now I have little of that. My nieces and various other things are immensely meaningful to me but it's not the same. My job was my mission, my reason for existing. (The bug is getting bigger. My huge cat is on the warpath. Hope he wins because squashing this thing would require repainting the room.) It's the I don't have something to do every day that really matters part that is hard. But at least he finally said it because I haven't known how and I think that my inability to say it has come across wrong. It's been really hard for me to say things the way I mean sometimes lately, something I'm assuming is related to depression and lack of sleep, and that's caused misunderstandings everywhere.
So anyway, I benefitted today from those 8 years in that I was able to tell him what I thought and that is not something I do easily. I will admit and need to admit to him that sometimes it's also hard because why solve problems with him if he's just going to leave. I think that's a fairly questionable thing now but it could and may well happen and I am not going to know for a long time if it is happening. And yet making it so I can get through that kind of transition is so hard. And I don't want to cry so enough of that.
The funny story of the day: When I saw Dr. Brain she increased my Neurontin dose a bit. I'd lowered it because of being on topomax but that drug is on hold until my niece is recovered from surgery and I'm not needing to be alert. It is helping me sleep better. I have a long history of sleepwalking, especially when I'm stressed and heavily medicated. This afternoon my mom wanted to know what caused the really loud noise that woke her at 4 AM. I was really confused because I knew I was asleep and then I remembered. About then I woke up (thought I did) needing to pee and feed my cat. I grabbed the cat when I walked past where she was sleeping on my bed (apparently) and proceeded to sleepwalk myself right into the door which banged into the closet door that is behind it when the door is open. I let the cat go upon waking rubbing my forehead and then I assume I went to the bathroom and back to bed. I'm not sure that even smacking my head woke me fully. It didn't hurt. Poor cat has been a victim of sleepwalking before. Once I found her in the garage where I'd put her during a night. Another time I locked her in a basement. She just goes on sleeping all the time. She probably thinks it is normal after so many years.
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Sunday, September 08, 2013
Someone else's words
But properly credited so there aren't any ugly consequences. I wish I had written something like this as well as this woman did.
The link is here
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Saturday, September 07, 2013
Updates
First, random point that I"m sorry about posts that don't format. If I post from my email it formats. If I post from blogger it comes out in one monster paragraph. I haven't figured it out yet.
My niece will have surgery Thursday. She will be just over 3 weeks old. It's major surgery and I am having trouble getting used to the idea that she is going to experience pain. The children's hospital is really good and I know they'll control it, but still....3 weeks old. Maybe 9 lbs. It hurts my soul somehow. I don't know more details; my sister hasn't gotten a lot of things clarified that she needs to. She's under the impression that they'll be in a family recovery room post-op. They know they'll be in the hospital a minimum of 3 days, more if she isn't meeting requirements. She will be on IV feedings and possibly a vent for a day or 2 after surgery. I suspect she'll be in intensive care (certainly with a vent, probably otherwise) at least initially because she is so little to have major surgery. This surgery can be kind of bloody so that's a factor too. Then she'll be in a regular room. My sister is hoping they can keep Anne with them but I think that sounds like a disaster. She is not going to happily stay in a hospital and honestly seeing Geraldine while she is drugged, in pain and unable to be normally held or snuggled (and shouldn't be jostled accidentally) is a bad, bad idea. But it's not mine to make. I"m hoping it is made for them, like no 3 year olds except during set visiting hours.And I know I"m NOT homeless really but it is a big transition to go from renting to owning a house and a bigger transition to go from owning to "renting". (I'm not officially renting because well it's just not going to work that way. But regardless, I know who owns my house now and it's not me.) I was glad to hear the new owner is excited to move in and that he likes my little house. I just miss the idea. And now I'm crying and my eyes are so sore from yesterday's hours of crying plus wiping them with chemicals so enough about that.
I am so tired. I hope that Dr. Brain can fix that too. I"ve been taking more klonopin than I"m supposed to or ever really have (because I used to have other meds for anxiety and haven't needed them in a very long time) and she knows that but I need a better solution. I don't want klonopin to stop working for me. Ativan did several years ago and now the only dose that helps is a large one that makes me sleep. I can't take Xanax and nobody wants me to so I need to keep my klonopin use down. It's hard when I'm on so much antipsychotic plus Neurontin and other sedatives and I'm still way too anxious. Shows I need a new med, but it's frustrating. A few years ago during one of these spells I was allowed a small dose of valium and rare use of it really was helpful but now I am not allowed to have it because of the suicidal stuff. I would love to get a new script for that because a teeny amount helps so much and it can be used rarely but that is not likely.
Anyway, I've probably been feeling pretty sorry for myself writing this too and we can't have that. (See, angry). I'm just writing to try to think my way through some of this so please forgive any negative ways it sounds. Not intended, just overwhelmed and not sure what I need to say to Dr. Mind that isn't going to make it worse.
Thursday, September 05, 2013
New experience
I saw Dr. Mind today. It didn't go quite the way I hoped. Instead of just listening and being sympathetic which I desperately needed he decided that it was a good day to come down hard on me. It didn't go well.
I left his office crying, which happens, and sat in my car crying and trying to calm down. After a long time crying I realized that because I just cleaned my car I did not have anything to blow my nose on except a dust cloth with armor all in it. And I used it until it was soaked. After about 40 minutes I went back in and asked if he had another appointment. He did and I took it because by then I was pretty sure I wasn't going to ever be able to leave without talking more.Wednesday, September 04, 2013
Interesting moment
I went to do a few errands today. In the dollar store someone said "Hi Jen". I didn't recognize her although she was familiar. It took prompting like I was a bit slow (she had lost about 50 lbs and dyed her hair) but the speaker was a former supervisor who kept telling me she was absolutely on my side and that I was being treated unfairly when her superiors were working hard to fire me. But after it happened she never had the grace to call me or indicate in any way that she wasn't entirely for firing me. They mailed most of my possessions back by dumping them out of their containers into a box with a small hole and some of my things did not make it back to me. They all hated me. I'm not saying I was doing a great job for them. I wasn't. They had requirements that were more difficult than average and I couldn't keep up well. But rather than trying to help or even listening to the OT who had evaluated me a year before when she came to talk to them about to help me work more effectively they sought out ways to fire me, catching me in errors that did not matter at all (or were not errors; at least one I was set up and another if I had pushed it with the OT board I would have won, plus that was done based on what the person I met today told me to do in her role as supervisor). The dumb thing is there were valid reasons to fire me had they only bothered to look. But anyway, it was totally uncomfortable and I still have no idea why she didn't let me just walk on past, focused on whether I felt like carrying 40 lbs of cat litter up 2 flights of stairs or if I would go somewhere tomorrow to get a reasonable size container. But I've been waiting to run into someone from that time since I moved here and now I have. I still think that unless she wanted to say something along the lines of "I'm sorry about what happened" she should have let me go on, but whatever. This is part of the reason I don't work now.
Tomorrow I finally see Dr. Mind. I am so ready for help dealing with all of this.Missed what I shouldn't have
I try to read reader's blogs. I haven't updated my links list in a few years so that will be a project soon, but it came to my attention that at least one of you has been blogging and I thought she had stopped.
So, if you have a blog and you'd like a reader, please post a comment on this post. I'll be happy to read what you have to say. I'll warn you that I am sometimes a bad commenter; it depends on how I feel. For the next several weeks I will be needing things to read but may not feel coherent enough to comment, and my older niece may make it hard when she is here; she likes to have our full attention and probably will be extra needy while her sister has surgery.
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