"I don't know how an 8 months old child can do without sleep as she does".If only she knew.
[ETA; And thank God she never did. My illness would have hurt her so much. Also, although she knew later about the molesting but not to the degree or frequency or anything else, I'm so glad she didn't know what I know now with reasonable certainty: the date my grandfather first molested me. I was 8 months old, Sept. 20, 1976. I suspect this because the routine became as of that day that he took me upstairs and stayed upstairs while I napped, and he molested me while he had that "free time" he called his own nap time. Although it sounds crazy I have memories that are from 8 1/2-9 months old that I know weren't fed to me as I thought I was 1 or 2 and mentioned it to my brother who was able to date it for sure and I was an infant. I know by association with other things that I can tag with a date that he was molesting me by 11 months. I talked very early and apparently memory starts when you can form complete thoughts. So I was the same age exactly as my niece is now. In that context it is even worse.]