Whenever the rainbow appears in the clouds, I will see it and remember the everlasting covenant between God and all living creatures of every kind on the earth." Genesis 9:13

Thursday, May 26, 2011

What I hate the most about my abusive past

It is not one of the things you're going to think it is.  It's not the hard work, it's not the horrifying things like I broke my ankle and ran 5 miles on it 2 days later and continued to do so until I destroyed my knee and my other foot as well.  It's not the bad memories and the terror of things I may or may not understand why I am afraid of.  It's not the sudden discoveries that knock me down over and over.  It's not looking at my life and how so much of the bad things in my life are related to abuse.  It's not even the things I've lost, relationships, children, probably marriage, etc.

So what is it?  Well, turns out the most painful part of my past is hearing people say (and this is surprisingly often) out of the blue "I just don't know how anyone could hurt a child.  Especially a baby".  And I want to always say I know exactly how, and you don't want to know what I know.  It can get worse, because sometimes they proceed to talk about how they think the child in question will turn out, etc.  And I have to just smile and play along, because one of the reasons abuse is so bad, so prevalent, is that people naturally protect themselves by believing it happens away from them.  I never know what to think or feel in these discussions.  And today I realized I truly hate them more than anything else, and it's worse because they are innocent of wrongdoing aside from not mindreading.

I will say I'm glad it is small enough now I can feel that way.


Anonymous said...

My comments haven't been going through my Google account. This is a test. Michal

Anonymous said...

O.k....looks like I'll have to be "anonymous." I've been trying to commend Dr. Body and the allergist. I'll bet it makes you feel really good to have such a strong advocate in Dr. Body.

Awaiting news of the vacation and praying with compassion especially since I've been going through my own meds adjustment. I'm so proud of you!

I hope these verses encourage you.

Colossians 1: 9-14

9 So we have not stopped praying for you since we first heard about you. We ask God to give you complete knowledge of His will and to give you spiritual wisdom and understanding. 10 Then the way you live will always honor and please the Lord, and your lives will produce every kind of good fruit. All the while, you will grow as you learn to know God better and better.

11 We also pray that you will be strengthened with all His glorious power so you will have all the endurance and patience you need. May you be filled with joy, 12 always thanking the Father. He has enabled you to share in the inheritance that belongs to His people, who live in the light. 13 For He has rescued us from the kingdom of darkness and transferred us into the Kingdom of His dear Son, 14 who purchased our freedom and forgave our sins.