The other day I clicked a cute picture which was a money making a statement that I can't translate from swearing. It wasn't offensive to mental illness although it did mention it. The poster commented about needing to take it down before someone got upset. That was clearly me. I said something. I didn't take it private and I should have. I should have just blocked everyone. But that girl picked on me for years. I think those feelings were stronger than any others. She declared she was blocking me, I left for group. I came home and checked to see if perhaps the facebook page person who I did think of as more of a friend had removed it. Instead I found this:
This was followed by a note I initially thought was friendly from the person whose wall this was posted on. Turns out, not so friendly when I read it the 7th time which is after I had responded. I responded mainly by saying that I was being misquoted, that it would be beneficial to listen to my side before deciding I was wrong, and that both these women may work in mental health but that doesn't mean they know much about how it feels. I had the same experience when I worked in psych, except that I had the 3rd level of being a psych patient myself. I pointed out how different our lives are. This led to my being called judgmental and that I am having a big pity party for myself.
My self-esteem is far, far away right now. But there is one thing I know for certain: I have not faced this that way. I have gone step by step into what needed to be done, no matter how unpleasant or embarrassing for months now. When I found out it was time for SSDI and foodstamps I had 2 choices: cry and freak out and delay processing or do what I had to do. I have done that. n I'm not sure anyone could have handled all the details I have in the last few months and done any better at staying rational, especially with how sick I was. As I feel better there is a lot of sadness. But I can't think that there are many people who wouldn't be sad and grieving a bit after a year like mine. To put it in perspective I found out my body can't have kids. And even though I knew that was never a good idea, I have to say that most women would grieve for that alone. I didn't get that chance because I have been so sick. As for judgmental, I think we all are at times. I'm not even close to as judgmental as posting that above thing which will hang out there long term. I am so mad at myself for not making sure that was gone. Oh well.
I did get a very, very kind note from my former boss and I think we're going to have dinner some night. That was desperately needed. It said not to worry about mean people, the people I worked with love me.
But I'm not liking this all that much. Many things I've said, intended for my family, were scrambled up in this. And it causes way too much anxiety. I also feel humiliated although I'm not the one(s) who thought doing this was ok. I know how gossip spreads there and eventually the whole town is going ot know a series of lies. I thought before posting that they might all know my diagnosis and I was fine with that. I am not fine with this.
So I move on and start over with the broken computer I got back today with the same problems it had before.
The truth though is that Dr. Mind wrote on a form that I have poor impulse control. This proved him correct. And it proved the people I thought were mean 20 years ago were mean...Ugh.
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