Here's an article that is about the sadness when you raise a sex offender and how difficult it is to live as a convicted and released sex offender.
I read it and I thought "I don't care." I am sorry that those mothers have been through the pain they must feel. A family member I was close to (not one who molested me) was convicted for molesting children and he lost everything. He left town and never came back except to sneak in to say goodbye to my grandmother when she was dying and I think once more to move my father far away from us. I don't remember talking to him after the age of 9 and he was a huge part of my life. I lost my closest and favorite playmate, his daughter, in this.
But there is nothing in place that sets apart sexual offenders that I feel sorry about. Both men who molested me molested numerous other children. My father was a TEACHER, molesting students.
I understand that these offenders may be totally over their issues and that in those cases the monitoring and restrictions must feel terrible. But most sex offenders will do it again.
For the mothers, I think that it is important to be realistic: You love your son. You have many feelings about what happened. You want to believe he's cured. There's embarrassment and fear and many other emotions, I'm sure. Statistically, it is likely to happen again. And the victims? What they live with is many times worse than the mother of the offender feels.
I guess the mothers are kind of victims too. But I really don't need CNN shoving that at me.
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